The Deep Snooze
Filmed: 2001, Cervera de Pisuerga, Spain
Filmed in 2001 and released in 2021, this film features a couple's therapy session where an “older” multicultural couple works on intimacy/connection issues. In this session, we see stereotypes of people socialized as men and people socialized as women reversed. The man is afraid that he will be abandoned and left alone, regardless of how much reassurance his wife expresses. Simultaneously, the woman is working hard to establish her own space and intimacy with her husband. While more people socialized as men can be confluent/fusion “phobic” and more people socialized as women can be more isolation “phobic,” this couple demonstrates that this is not a fixed issue, despite the strongly culturally biased scaffolding. In reality, we all have both sides of this polarity. We all fear abandonment and fear being swallowed up. This session reflects “the dance of life”, the Basic Human Dilemma: how to be connected to another - and maintain a self. In this film, the husband struggles to stay fused, and the wife works to create space for herself. These are different paths to the same goal: connection. Genuine connection requires both contact and withdrawal - with the necessary movement in between.
File type: 720p HD mp4 with hard coded subtitles in English or Russian. Language spoken in films is English.
Filmed: 2001, Cervera de Pisuerga, Spain
Filmed in 2001 and released in 2021, this film features a couple's therapy session where an “older” multicultural couple works on intimacy/connection issues. In this session, we see stereotypes of people socialized as men and people socialized as women reversed. The man is afraid that he will be abandoned and left alone, regardless of how much reassurance his wife expresses. Simultaneously, the woman is working hard to establish her own space and intimacy with her husband. While more people socialized as men can be confluent/fusion “phobic” and more people socialized as women can be more isolation “phobic,” this couple demonstrates that this is not a fixed issue, despite the strongly culturally biased scaffolding. In reality, we all have both sides of this polarity. We all fear abandonment and fear being swallowed up. This session reflects “the dance of life”, the Basic Human Dilemma: how to be connected to another - and maintain a self. In this film, the husband struggles to stay fused, and the wife works to create space for herself. These are different paths to the same goal: connection. Genuine connection requires both contact and withdrawal - with the necessary movement in between.
File type: 720p HD mp4 with hard coded subtitles in English or Russian. Language spoken in films is English.
Filmed: 2001, Cervera de Pisuerga, Spain
Filmed in 2001 and released in 2021, this film features a couple's therapy session where an “older” multicultural couple works on intimacy/connection issues. In this session, we see stereotypes of people socialized as men and people socialized as women reversed. The man is afraid that he will be abandoned and left alone, regardless of how much reassurance his wife expresses. Simultaneously, the woman is working hard to establish her own space and intimacy with her husband. While more people socialized as men can be confluent/fusion “phobic” and more people socialized as women can be more isolation “phobic,” this couple demonstrates that this is not a fixed issue, despite the strongly culturally biased scaffolding. In reality, we all have both sides of this polarity. We all fear abandonment and fear being swallowed up. This session reflects “the dance of life”, the Basic Human Dilemma: how to be connected to another - and maintain a self. In this film, the husband struggles to stay fused, and the wife works to create space for herself. These are different paths to the same goal: connection. Genuine connection requires both contact and withdrawal - with the necessary movement in between.
File type: 720p HD mp4 with hard coded subtitles in English or Russian. Language spoken in films is English.